Call For Wisdom

Dutchman has been talking with me over the past two weeks - he needs wisdom.  What can he do to help his son and new daughter-in-law when Satan is reigning supreme in their lives?

Sigh .....

Dutchman's Son is the product of a Dutch Reformed Christian background - however he is not a real Christian, just heavy exposure.  First marriage, one kid with wife.  So, he knows what is right and what is wrong, he desires what is right, but wrong just is such a strong lure and so much more enjoyable ...

The Bride is from an atheist American family, third generation on welfare, no incentive to do or be anything other than the responsibility of someone else.  The appalling part is that she has had three children all by different fathers, married twice before, and is now the ripe old age of 22!

The problem is she now wants the freedom to rejoin the party scene she left when she married DS and is having problems understanding DS' lack of understanding for her to come home at all hours!  Add to this that DS has reverted to, or may have not actually departed from, his premarital problems.  So, she is sleeping around and is back to chemical dependency, and admits it willingly because she sees no problem here!  DS is back into porn land and his alcoholism.  But, remember, they have three children between them!  And as I hear from other sources, there is abuse going on now.

Add to this that the Bride's mother decided to move in with them as she got caught cheating on her Section-8 housing rules (how much you can make and still qualify) thus being thrown out of the discount housing she lived in.  Now with her daughter for several months, I have no wonder where some of the Bride's ideas are coming from ...  Plus, mother has a 22 year old boyfriend, recently deported to Canada on drug charges and is pregnant with child 9!

Oh the tangled webs we weave ... (one of Shakespeare's best statements!)

What is poor Dutchman to do?  He has sunk $42,000 this year alone in trying to help his son get on top of the messes the wife keeps making - yet there is no learning, the messes just get worse and more costly.

And the call for wisdom ...

I always struggle in such situations.  I do not like speaking for God (ex cathedra), in other's lives.  But, if asked, I will as God - His knowledge of where all paths lead is infinite, mine only goes to the horizon, if that far.  Heaven knows I have been blind-sided more than once!

Mother has to go away asap before the daughter will have a chance to think about her marriage and not herself.
Friends, also long term staying in the house, need to go away as well.
Son has to get his act together with God, or there is no reason for expectation that God will take any hand in healing this family.
Bride needs to get a handle on what her husbands professed faith really is and make her peace with God as well.
Both need to get a handle on their anger issues for the sake of children. 
Counseling is mandatory, individually as well as together as a couple!
Both need to start to place the other first in their lives!
God has to become number one, not self interest and selfishness.

For as much as I may desire DS to be healed, his problems began long ago and are deeply ingrained now.
For as much as I may desire this marriage to be healed, humanistically, I understand this may not be possible.  They both have already turned their backs on the other.
For as much as I many desire a sold family for these three children ... sigh ...

Without God, there is no hope. 
With God there is not only hope but a solid expectation!
But, it also takes two committed hearts to one another, as well as God.

Please be in prayer with me over this disaster ...
God can and will move to change things.